Can't earn respect by looking impressive

Published on May 20, 2015 01:21:21 AM

S V Nagnath, Astropsychologist, I learnt the importance of Swachh Soch, Swachh Bol early in my life. As a kid, I learnt how speech can break up a marriage. I was very young and impressionable when my uncle got divorced, an event which was the result of the use of foul language. Back then, I told my father that if these people just avoid abusing each other and talk warmly all issues can be sorted out and the marriage can be saved, as both my uncle and aunt had many positive traits.

You cannot find peace by avoiding life.  - Virginia Woolf

My father then slapped me and asked me to mind my own business. Today I give the same message to people with the credibility of being an astrologer and a psychologist. The job of a psychologist is to teach common sense, but common sense can never be taught. It is inherent and depends on an individual's interest. Most people in South East Asian society lack the desire to 'think'. They work hard at adopting cosmetic glamour but have no interest in adopting a respectable personality.

Too many youngsters today think respect can be earned by looking impressive. While it is important to look good, it is not the purpose of life. Setting your mind straight, giving it the right direction and developing a personality that can be loved and respected is the purpose of life. Sadly, many people are not aware of this or just don't care.

One more perilous trend in our society is that we have no such thing as personality development. People in western countries spend so much time and money on personal development while people here learn this only from parents and teachers. When parents and teachers do something wrong, children learn that it's okay to do that too. This lack of attention to personal development mechanisms in our society needs urgent and earnest attention.